Hello and Welcome!
My name is Barbara Rubio and I am an Identity and Growth Coach. This means that I help people find themselves again, or for the first time, in spite of and beyond trauma, fear or anxiety.
I coach people just like yourself as they move from feeling like victims of their own experience to understanding the role that the mind plays in shaping their experience of what seems real, to finally be able to recognise and embrace their true identity – free from shame, blame, guilt, fear and anxiety.
Through this transformative coaching, my clients experience deep insights into their own story which offer them a fresh perspective, a new lens from which to look at themselves and their experience. This is where obstacles are removed, weight is lifted and a way forward seems clear. In other words, this is where learning and growth happens.
Here’s a bit more about myself.
I know transformational coaching works because I have used it in my own self discovery. I have had my fair share of traumatic experiences at different points in my life, which lead to a huge identity crisis, fear of men, issues with my body image, loss of my voice and anxiety when interacting in large groups or with figures of authority.
I suffered prolonged sexual abuse as a child in primary school and this left the biggest imprint in my character and personality. It took 20 years of introspection, therapy and a range of other tools to be able to experience that shift in the perception of my experience and the role of those involved in it. It took twenty years for ME to be born and for ME to feel and BE free. My experience cannot be erased, that is not what personal development, growth, coaching or therapy do. But I learnt to separate myself from the identity I had created of myself following those events, and this opened the door to the biggest, fastest learning and growth I have experienced yet.
While I was learning to cope with this, I also experienced other trauma including workplace bullying and miscarriage. Although taking action and recovering from the insecurity, anxiety and paranoia I was experiencing took some years, I was able to recycle existing knowledge to help me make progress. This is the beauty of learning and growth. We can apply our understanding to new situations and each time, we find that our suffering is shorter-lived while our recovery toward happiness accelerates.
I have learnt to become comfortable with discomfort and to take small steps towards addressing the limitations that stopped me from realising my potential. There are endless tools and tips I have learnt in the last 25 years that have lead me to where and who I am today.
And in case you were wondering about my qualifications and experience…
I have been a teacher of both children and adults for the last 15 years and I’ve had to develop a multi-disciplinary approach to dealing with learners of all ages and their loved ones in order to best support them along the learning journey. There is no academic learning and growth without personal learning and growth. This means that more often than not, I acted as a coach to support learners and their loved ones as they struggled to become the people they knew they were meant to be.
From poverty-stricken, single mothers to people living with chronic diseases to migrants and asylum seekers fleeing war and persecution. Everyone out there is living, and trying to cope with, the effects of trauma in their lives. Without addressing these issues and gaining a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us we cannot make progress towards bigger goals. We can’t fulfil our potential and fully transform our lives, our communities, our businesses and the world.
I teach people how to bridge the gaps between where and who they are now and where and who they want to be. I coach them as they identify and use the tools that best suit their current situation and guide them along their journey of growth and transformation.
My mission is to work with people who can no longer bear to remain the same and who, despite feeling stuck due to their current circumstances, want to gain a better understanding of themselves and the world to conquer themselves, overcome their limitations and give birth to the incredible person they are.
Are you one of them? Click here to book a FREE 40min consultation – no tricks and no obligations after that.